Has your sex life taken a nosedive? Find out what’s causing your low libido and read on to find out how one woman reclaimed her mojo.
“My husband and I used to have sex about four times a week. Six years and two kids later, it dwindled to once every fortnight. It’s not that I stopped loving my husband, but I became so caught up with my job and our children that sex just stopped being a priority for me.
Whenever my husband initiated sex, I’d say, ‘Oh no, I don’t feel like it, maybe another time.’ It was an effort for me to think sexy thoughts, let alone feel aroused. Finally, my husband opened up about our practically non-existent sex life. He was hurt and rejected and wondered if I was still attracted to him. It surprised me that he felt that way and I knew I had to do something. My husband and I devised a plan to get our sex life back on track. We booked a weekend getaway to reconnect sexually, and made it a point to have sex once a week. Slowly, we built up the frequency to thrice a week. At first, it was hard for me to clear my mind to make room for sexual thoughts, but the more I relaxed, and with my hubby’s support, the easier it got.
It took some time, but now, we’re back to having sex as often as before. It took a lot of effort and planning, but I believe that if you really want to turn the situation around, you can 0 with your man’s help, of course.”
– Mika*, 39, account director
*Names have been changed
*This article first appeared in Her World June 2015 and was written by Sasha Gonzales