Admit it: After a long day at work, the last thing on your mind is sex. Here’s how to make it the first thing you think of, even on a busy day.
Be realistic – sex in a different family life cycle changes and sometimes you only have enough time for a quickie. It’s better than not having sex at all. A lot of couples don’t like to plan ahead for sex because it takes away the romance. They want to be spontaneous but in a busy family life, you have to put it in your calendar. As unromantic as it sounds, it’s still practical. Planned sex can be just as fun as spontaneous sex.
MOISTURE AND MASSAGE
A woman’s libido will be missing, especially after breastfeeding. A daily massage with ‘liquid silk’ (a lubricant) will do the trick. The massage brings healthy blood closer to the surface. It provides moisture to help prevent any possible tearing.
MAINTAIN PELVIC FLOOR STRENGTH
When your pelvic floor muscle starts to slip, you may begin to feel as though nothing happens down there anymore. Learn how to exercise your pelvic floor muscles to maintain your connection with the experience of sexual arousal.
REMIND YOUR BODY
When you have an orgasm, the contractions bring blood flow to your pelvis, keeping your tissues strong and thick, and your pelvic muscles flexible. It also utilises your circulatory system and your nervous system, keeping everything running smoothly. Having regular orgasms (at least once a week) helps keep these muscles in shape and reminds your body how to get a sexual arousal. A vibrator can speed up the process as well.
BEGIN THE FOREPLAY
You need to make time for gourmet sex. Even though you have to settle for a quickie, sometimes men have to realise that gourmet sex is important for the wife and the foreplay starts long before you jump into bed. It begins in the morning when your partner makes you a cup of coffee and sends you a text that says he’s already made reservations at your favourite restaurant. It continues as you have a great conversation during dinner and by the time you go to bed, 90 per cent of the foreplay is done. Date night, as cheesy as it sounds, is important. It’s a worthwhile investment to pay a babysitter to come in once a week for the sake of your marriage.