3 Ways To Boost your Sexual Confidence

WHAT YOU’RE SHY ABOUT: YOUR POST-PREGNANCY BODY

Address it: Before you jump to conclusions, ask him how he feels about your new body – his answer may be more positive than expected. Express your concerns and insecurities honestly, and ask for support if needed. To feel less  self-conscious, you can choose to conceal certain body parts with lingerie that makes you feel sex. But most importantly, give yourself some credit for selfless nurturing and giving life to another human being.

WHAT YOU’RE SHY ABOUT: NOT REACHING ORGASM DURING SEX

Address it: Have you ever been able to orgasm by pleasuring yourself, or were you able to orgasm through oral or manual stimulating by your partner? If you answered yes, communicate with your husband and talk about what works and what doesn’t. It could be as simple as spending more time on foreplay to stimulate your body. Do, also, experiment with different types of positions that you’re both comfortable with. Whatever it is, don’t fake an orgasm, as your partner will never find out what you truly enjoy. be yourself and remember, it’s okay to laugh at yourselves if you don’t get it right immediately.

WHAT YOU’RE SHY ABOUT: SEX HURTS AFTER MENOPAUSE

Address it: Let him know that your body feels different now as you’re going through menopause. Assure him it has nothing to do with him or what he’s doing differently in bed. But rather than just telling him that sex hurts, talk about what would make sex better for you, like longer foreplay or using a lubricant – this will boost both your husband’s and your sexual confidence. If nothing feels good for you, speak to your gynaecologist. Avoiding discussions about painful sex can lead to other problems down the road.

*This article first appeared in Her World January 2017 and was written by Stephanie Yap

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