Because, despite everything, you know he’s the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
1. You trust each other
Trust is one of the fundamental elements of a relationship, but learning to trust your other half is not easy as it takes time and effort. So if someone someone asks if you trust your husband without a shred of doubt, you should be able to say “yes” immediately, but if you hesitate, then maybe the both of you need to have a serious talk.
2. There’s personal space
Just because you’re in love with each other doesn’t mean that you have to devote every second with one another. While it’s vital to spend quality time with your spouse, being in a healthy relationship also means you have the freedom to do the things that you enjoy. Whether it’s hanging out with your best friends at your favourite cafe or spending Sunday afternoons baking, you should be able to do those things without having your other half questioning you or crowding you.
3. You have healthy arguments
It’s inevitable you’ll have disagreements or arguments when you’re in a relationship. It’s normal to vent your feelings to your husband. Just keep in mind, that when you fight, you should fight fairly and that means no name-calling or bringing up the past. And when you’re wrong? Always apologise.
4. You make decisions together
When you’re in a committed relationship, it’s important to consult with your spouse and make decisions together. Even if it’s just deciding what movie to watch. Couples in healthy relationships listen to each other’s concerns and desires and discuss them before making any decisions.
5. You talk to each other
When you’re having any issues you should let him know how you feel. The key is to create a safe environment where the both of you can express your true feelings without judgement and if you’re able to get through the conflict and learn from it, it’ll make your relationship even stronger.
6. You surprise each other
What’s life without a little surprise? We’re not talking about getting your husband something extravagant like return tickets for a Europe trip (well, you could if you wanted to); it’s the little things that matter . Leave a note at the coffee machine in the morning to greet him if you have to leave early for work or let him pick the movies when it’s actually your turn to do so. When you joyfully do things to make him happy, he’ll appreciate you even more.
7. You accept each other
Human beings are flawed and nobody’s perfect. If you can’t expect yourself to be perfect at all times, you shouldn’t place the same expectation on your husband either.
8. You appreciate each other
Nothing is more important than treating your loved one with care and kindness. Appreciate every little thing that he does for you and be grateful with what he give you. Don’t forget to say the magic words “thank you”. They mean a lot more than you think.
9. You inspire each other to be better
One result of being in a healthy relationship that you bring out the best in each other. Why would you want to be with someone who demotivates you or encourages you to do things that are damaging to yourself? Couples in healthy relationships aren’t jealous of one another but inspire each other and believe that the other person can do great things!
10. “I love you”
Say it. Just say it. As simple as this sounds, those three words, said in one form or another, are a key component of healthy relationships.