Like adults, children will encounter setbacks. We asked Dr Cheah Renn Zhern, a clinical psychologist, for advice on how you can help your kids cope with disappointment.
Zoo visits get cancelled when it rains and Toys“R”Us runs out of the latest figurines. You can’t prevent these things from happening, but you can reduce your children’s distress by keeping their anticipation within reason. Rather than talking about exciting plans as a given, treat them as mere possibilities. If things don’t work out in the end, you’ve cushioned the blow – and your kids will learn that disappointments are a part of life. Let them know that you are disappointed too, and then ask for suggestions on what to do so everyone can feel better (e.g. get ice cream together, go to the park or play board games).