Your Role as a Parent
Sometimes, the kids blame themselves for the divorce, and this guilt can be carried forward well into adulthood. “The kids are growing up and they’re not stupid, they need to know. You must give them the assurance that just because you don’t get along with their father any more, it doesn’t mean you don’t love them,” he says.
The custody process may seem frightening to start with, but Dato’ Arunan says that in most cases,
mothers are granted custody of the children up till their teenage years – as long as the mother is capable physically, mentally, and emotionally.
“Stay-at-home mums often worry about the financial burden they may have to take on when they get custody of the children. But they don’t need to, because they can make an application to the court to request that the ex-husband pays for maintenance of the household and the children,” he clarifies.
Read more in the story ‘Divorce and Children’, written by Kate Ng, in our December issue.